I know a person very close to me is cheated on by his wife, but he has no proof to go against her in the court. He got some evidences in the beginning, but in order to set things right and forget the past, he choosed to look beyond the past and move forward. Had he not done so, he would have got tons of evidence against his wife and could have got the divorce rather easily than what it takes under Hindu Marriage Act. There was nothing wrong forgetting the past of his wife and forgiving her, but he should have been bit alert after that incident to know the real face of hers. Things continued to worsen from bad and they separated after couple of year their marriage. My acquaintance tried very hard to retrace his wife’s footsteps to find her past, present and future but he failed in every effort until very recently. He found some link of her closeness with a person, whom she had once claimed as her rakhi brother. His all earlier effort to know about her from her neighbourhood had yielded nadir. She had befriended one of the girl of her estranged husband’s neighbourhood, who used to update her about her in-laws activities towards her. She was very clever in her social media activities with closed Facebook wall, limited or negligible activities at other platforms. But my acquaintance kept his pursuit on from multiple directions. He lost lots of money and had very limited success. After only few months of staying together and subsequent circumstantial evidences thrown by his wife about her possible actions, he had stumbled upon the multiple calls from one number, which was then told as of her rakhi brother. Considering how pious is a brother sister relationship, even if it is result of only tying a rakhi, he immediately dismissed that man’s name from his list of suspects. But, now his continuous effort was saying something else.
But, this is not the story about my acquaintance and his troubled married life, but step by step formula for people, irrespective to gender, to how to cheat on their spouses in this digital age and don’t get caught.
1) Don’t cheat at all: Cheating is negative word, so don’t indulge in negativity. Newton’s third law does not apply in science only, but in our every action. If you do something, it will come back to you; sooner or later. If you don’t like to feel what you have made others to feel, then don’t do what you don’t want others to do with you. If you don’t want to be with your present partner, just let him or her know and move on. There is no point in being in unhappy relationship.
2) If cheat, don’t be on social media: ‘Cheating’ may be negative word but ‘love’ is not. So, if you are in love and want to stay connected with somebody else along with your present partner, then don’t be on social media. We are a social media addicted person, that’s why, around 15% of the world population is on Facebook. If you are on Facebook, don’t you think that your spouse, partner, ex- would be there as well. You can’t control each and everything and may give away some vital clues to somebody you may not want to give. My acquaintance’s wife and her boyfriend had created a separate Facebook profile to stay connected with each other. Moreover, none of them had uploaded their original photographs on that profile. What gave them away were their core actions in their respective life. While the lady had uploaded pictures of her achievements in study field, her alternate man had photos of from original profile on his alternate profile. Further, that alternate man is of bit narcissist in nature and has uploaded his pictures in abundance on his Facebook profile. One of his photographs gave away his complete address.
Please remember that person behind the keypad is you only and you have personality, interests etc; which is bound to come out even from your fake persona. If somebody looks closely at your fake profile, he or she will be able to make it that it is you only and nobody else.
3) If you choose to stay on social media, then do following things:
- Don’t make profile in isolation: If you want to cheat and stay on social media as well, then sit with your new partner and make the profile in consultation with each other. Plan every information in detail for that social media platform. If you do in isolation, then you will be governed more by your own idea than your combined idea. Please remember that it takes two to cheat, so cheat together.
- Use lesser known and used social media platforms: Lovers mostly meets in less frequented parks, isolated places like corner of basement car parking, shady hotel rooms etc., which are not frequented by general public to avoid any acquaintance to identify them and ask uninviting questions. Similarly, social media also has places where none of your friends go. Choose those platforms to interact.
- Create Code words: Your regular conversation language is known to everybody. So, don’t choose that; create code words to express your feelings and emotions.
- Don’t be emotional: Please remember that cheating is not only matter of heart by mind as well; while your heart cheats, your mind helps to carry out your action and protects you from any misfortune. So, if you are overwhelmed by any personal achievement or any personal emotion, stop it then and there and don’t let it flow on your fake profile. My acquaintance’s wife’s boyfriend had liked similar pages and similar sports on both the profile. While his main profile has around 300 friends, his fake profile has one friend and that friend is his lady love.
Last but not the least; Newton’s third law does not apply to science only, but it applies to our other actions as well. We cheat when we act on impulse; our sub-conscious mind falls in love. As our impulsive mind makes us to cheat somebody, it also gives lots of information about it to everyone by our actions and emotions. So, when you cheat, please believe that you are going to give away clues about it yourself.
So, last and best step: ‘Don’t Cheat’
